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#71 Senior Year Resolutions: Doing It Right Before Graduation

September 14, 2010

As college students we tend to be a little dependent on someone for every aspect of our life. If we live at home, we depend on our mom for the homecooked meals and not having to worry about the rent or paying for staying on campus. If we live on campus, we depend on our roommate and classmates to wake us up for that 9am lecture and ensure we make the deadline for our assignments. We depend on our professors and academic advisors on tips to survive the classes and consultation to get that A, we depend on our girlfriends to stop us from binge drinking on a stressful weeknight and stay away from boys we shouldn’t be fraternizing with. The irony is, we thought we were going to be independent since our first day in college, but in the end, deep down inside, we are still the same person, relying on people around us to make things work… and sacrificing the chance to train ourselves to think for ourselves, and to be free from unnecessary obligations.

Most of us, after the third year, have acquired the legal rights to engage in many activities that our grandmoms will blush and condemn if we utter them aloud. Yet, it is not surprising to still see college students feeling tied down because of the ‘rents or fear of expecting too much of their very bright futures and to have a mind of their own!

Here’s a few things you’ll need to learn to let go and do if you haven’t already:

1. Don’t feel guilty about not calling your parents/mom/dad every day or once a week.
I know some people who get calls from their parents a lot. Sometimes I feel a twinge of envy because it means that someone at home cares for them and love them enough to check up on them regularly. But it gets annoying after a while if you are bogged down with endless deadlines, project meetings and you have a social calendar to attend to.

Plus, when you are on that date with the gorgeous man from that Cultural Anthropology class, you don’t want to pick up a call and go, “No mom, I’m not binge drinking, I’m going to classes and I will use protection.” It’s kinda off-putting; just imagine if it were your date saying that to his mom!

2. Ignore the urban legends that you won’t last with a college sweetheart.
Enough is enough! Stop perpetuating myths about how people always change after they graduate and will therefore not last with their college boyfriend/girlfriend. Many people find love on campus and in fact it’s the best place to hunt for very eligible and intellectual men without emotional baggage.

3. Love what you study, stop obsessing about the career for a minute.
Breathe. Yes, breathe, calm down, and don’t let the obsession of finding the perfect career deny you of the opportunity to love and discover what you truly have a passion for, in academia that is. It’s perfectly normal if you feel like you are soulmates with Kierkegaard, Sartre, Foucault, Weber and Kant, and wish you could talk to them and have their autographs. This is great! Even if nobody really understands you when you talk about them when you meet other people who don’t share your love with these intellectuals. It might very well be the last time you can indulge endlessly in this, so enjoy being a nerdy student while it lasts.

4. Graduate on time.
ATTENTION all seniors!! You should have done this long ago if you haven’t, anyhow it’s way overdue. Do check what classes you need to attend to graduate on time, or early if you are bright and illustrious as you are. Hanging around for an extra semester when all your peers have graduated is neither cool nor wise. Even if it means you are delaying the need to get your ass out there and find a job in the dismal economic climate right now. I’m now struggling with a heavy workload to clear as many classes as I can, but a girl’s gotta do what she’s gotta do!

Graduating on time not only reflects that you managed your college career and curriculum well, it gives you ample time to begin your first career on the right foot, or if you don’t plan to work, start your Masters degree or your gap year on a satisfying note. And the best thing? Taking that long-awaited graduation photo with your classmates on Graduation Day…easily the biggest milestone in a college student’s life.

5. Think about what you want to do.
It’s nerve-wrecking, having to think about the future on top of the final year dissertations that we are currently slogging our asses off for. But nevertheless it’s important to start exploring the options, if you haven’t done so already. After all the summer internships and meetings with a career advisor, it doesn’t hurt to talk to seniors who’ve graduated before you, trawl the depths of the Internet and check out what interests you enough to make it something you will feel worthy of waking up to every morning for the rest of your life.

So here’s a couple more things for you to mull over… and while you mentally note them down, I shall sit back, relax and enjoy the Gossip Girl season premiere. (And then I start worrying about the future again, of course.) ♥

One Comment leave one →
  1. September 18, 2010 10:47 PM

    I love this blog! It’s so on point(most of the time) about college! Luckily I have 3 more years before senior year!

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